Monday, May 29, 2017

Life With 2 Children

In the not so distant future, my husband and I would like to give Scarlett a sibling.  No, I am not pregnant currently, but we would like to expand our family soon.  I'm taking the time to write this post to connect with other parents who have more than one child to see what the beginning was like for them.

I have three friends who have two children and a fourth who is having her second child soon.  I've been asking them questions and looking for advice on how their lives and children's lives changed once the second child arrived.  I'm an only child and knew that I always wanted to give my child a sibling.

Everything is so easy for me now in terms of taking care of Scarlett.  I have a set schedule for her for sleeping and eating along with bath time.  I'm very lucky that she's slept through the night since 6 months old, she takes a nap daily for 2-3 hours, and is a relatively good eater.  When you bring a second child into the mix, everything changes.  What if this child doesn't sleep and screams all night? Not only will Scarlett be up, but my husband and I too.  I think the fear of the unknown is difficult for me because I like to have everything planned out.  I know that this next baby is not necessarily going to be as easy as Scarlett is and that's something I'll have to handle.

As any parent would be, I am excited at the thought of a second child, but have some fears and concerns especially balancing everything with a new baby.  This is totally normal in my opinion. Some of my thoughts are how do I make sure both children feel equally loved? My friends say it takes so long to get both kids ready and out the door and they are always late.  I'm an early arrival person and can't imagine being late to things.  How do I make sure I spend equal time and attention with both children especially with a newborn who demands attention? Scarlett loves babies but how will she feel about a sibling who is permanently in her home? I hope she will not be jealous.

It's just been me and Scarlett for 2 1/2 years now and it will be an adjustment for all of us.  I know it will be exciting and a new journey in our lives too.  When the time comes I will try to prepare Scarlett for the new baby as much as possible! 

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