Thursday, June 30, 2016

Why I Chose Not to Co-Sleep

Sleeping arrangements are a hot topic among moms everywhere.  You're judged negatively if you sleep with your child and also if you don't sleep with them.  It may feel like you don't know what choice to make, but it's essential you choose the right one that works for your family.

From the minute Scarlett was born, she was in her own crib. I never wanted her in my bed and I couldn't imagine having a newborn in my bed either.  When you're already sleep deprived, the last thing you want is the baby crying every two hours one inch from your face.  Plus I wasn't comfortable sleeping with my child, I felt like I would roll over onto her or somehow hurt her.   Co-sleeping just wasn't something I was interested in.  A lot of people are horrified by this, but everyone is entitled to their own opinion.

I had no issue with my daughter being in her own room from the day we came home from the hospital.  I had the baby monitor right next to me and I was able to tend to her needs everytime she cried.  Of course it was frustrating to get up from my bed and walk to her room in the middle of the night, but I would take it over her being in the same room as me. My husband had no interest in co-sleeping either. 

I've heard horror stories about how parents can't get their toddlers to sleep in their own beds. When your child has spent 2 or 3 years in your bed, how can you expect them to want to sleep in their own room? They don't understand the sudden uprooting transition.  Can you blame them though?  Your little one has spent their whole life in your bed and you suddenly change their whole routine.  It's not going to come without tears and screams.  This is not something I want to have to deal with.  It sounds incredibly stressful.  

Co-sleeping does not work for me or my family, but that doesn't mean it won't work for you.  Plenty of parents want to sleep with their children and want that bond and closeness.  I can have that closeness by cuddling and hugging my daughter, but I don't want her in my bed.  It's enough that I have the dog in my bed too! 

Whether you choose to co-sleep or not, make sure you do what works for you and don't let anyone else influence you.  

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